Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Often leadership is thought of supervision or management of those “beneath” you.

Sometimes leadership is thought of leading yourself (so-called self-leadership).

Less often still-but equally valuable, leadership is understood to mean leading those above you or simply put: leading up.

In Episode 19 we talk about 3 keys to leading up better: lead up; lead up with vision; lead up with vision consistently.

I sincerely hope this will help you, your working relationships and your organizational culture. Hey, it might even save a marriage or improve your parenting!

*Don’t miss the parenting protip at the episode END!*

You can find the link here:

MP3

iTunes

 

Episode 11 (Part 1 & 2), The AWP: Growth Through Tough Things Featuring Bill Applebee

Episode 11 (Part 1 & 2), The AWP: Growth Through Tough Things Featuring Bill Applebee

Today, I welcome my dad to the show, Founder and CEO of Best Overnite Express, Bill Applebee and we’re talking about growth trough tough things.

Over 30 years of business and marriage and raising 4 kids he has faced numerous battles from economic crisis to health crisis and beyond.

We talk about facing the battles in life with a growth mindset that will better help you move to accept the tough things in your life.

The outlook of the episode is not just acceptance but growth and flourishing through a tough season or moment.

As in other shows, I used Paul David’s Tripp’s Parenting book for reference in this week’s parenting pro tip; you can us this link for his wonderful book.

Here is the mp4 link-PART 1.

Here is the mp4 link-PART 2

Here is the link for iTunes.

Here are some questions to consider after listening:

Application:
1. What is your response to tough things; indifference or acceptance?
2. Ask and answer the question why is this really happening to me?
3. Pause and consider how this circumstance may be an opportunity for growth.

Episode 9, The AWP: Get Unstuck, Use Your Dashboard

Episode 9, The AWP: Get Unstuck, Use Your Dashboard

Ever felt stuck or stagnant in your work or relationships because you’ve lost track of what the point behind it all is…?

You may be in need of a dashboard…

Dashboard, defined as a ‘picture of performance.’ Like the dashboard of a car, everyone needs a crystal clear AND visible dashboard for progress and destinations.

We have all been stuck, unsatisfied or void of purpose in work or life and for many different reasons. One that is cheif among them-I would bet-is a lack of vision for where you’re going AND how you’re doing getting there!

That’s where a dashboard would be helpful for creating clear and visible goals for your relationships, families and organizations.

The beauty of the dashboard is not just focus on the destination, but attention to the ups and downs of the journey.

Here is the episode audio file.

Here is the iTunes link.

Here are 3 questions to ask about moving from stuckness and plateau into passion in your work, life or family.

The 3 questions:

1. What’s your fight?

2. What’s your position?

3. Are you competing?

Application:

1. Create a dashboard that’s based off of a 1, 3 or 5 year plan (for your Prefered future, desired outcomes or goals)

2. Fill the dashboard with some of the things you want to see movement on

3. Review it early and often (otherwise its not a VISIBLE dashboard at all)

4. Use new numbers (not merely budgets or bottom lines; go beyond numbers to find what you really want to measure along the way)

Here are some Sources for further reading-each one of these guys are giants in this area (compared to me!)

–>Paul David Tripp book on Parenting https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Gospel-Principles-Radically-Change/dp/1433551934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1530216267&sr=8-1&keywords=parenting+by+paul+david+tripp

–>Ravi Zacharis https://rzim.org

–>Chris McChesney and people knowing they are playing a winning game; has a book out but also found here: https://www.franklincovey.com/speakers-bureau/chris-mcchesney.html

–>Craig Groeschel on Declarative Statements https://openblog.life.church/the-power-of-personal-declarations/

Episode 8, The AWP: Two Things you Must Tell Your Leaders every Week (Vision & Affirmation)

Episode 8, The AWP: Two Things you Must Tell Your Leaders every Week (Vision & Affirmation)

Another really personal topic for me this month: leadership identity.

The truth is: in the constant swirl of self-doubt, negative self-talk and overall mental negativity bias, we all need to hear the following words early and often:

Who you are as a leader is worth multiplying.

Fresh & passionate leadership lies at the intersection of consistent vision and identity affirmation.

If you have even one person in your life who counts on you, a child, a friend, a co-worker or mentee, then you are a leader. You have tremendous influence. And the “stuff” that’s inside you-all the character and competency and heart and faith-is worth multiplying in the next generation of leaders.

I hope you are encouraged by this month end post.

As always you can have a listen using the following two platforms:

MP3 file

Or

iTunes

Here are some application questions and links for further support:

Application Questions:

1, Who is one person you may have overlooked calling out the best in?

2, What is one thing you can do to begin building the habit of offering consistent vision & affirmation for your people?

Episode 7: Millenials, Marketing and Morality Feat. Skylar Chaput

Episode 7: Millenials, Marketing and Morality Feat. Skylar Chaput

I’m really excited about this months first episode featuring a co-host and a topic that is relevant to all!

Inspired by a recent read “Friction” by Rosenblum, we (my co-host and favorite Millenial-Skylar Chaput) take a look at the generations profound impact on the marketing and business practices.

It’s the contention of the book that-as the most researched and largest living generation-Millenials have had a profound influence on the way companies market themselves.

I take that premise one step further and suggest that there are broad sweeping economic and historical implications because not only has the generation forced ethics and social justice matters onto companies, but an entire generation is giving rise to the most moral but least spiritual people of all time.

I’m interested in asking the question: what impact might this have on the Church and American culture rit large!

Here are the respective links for listening:

MP3 file.

iTunes podcast app.

Do me a favor and rate, review and share this episode!

Application Question:

Are you attempting to reach the next generation why or why not? How might this value impact your investments (of all kinds: time, talent and treasure)?

References from today’s show:

Episode 5, The Applebee Way Podcast: How To Raise 7 Kids

Episode 5, The Applebee Way Podcast: How To Raise 7 Kids

First episode (of 2) this month is devoted to a listener question: how exactly are we able to keep up with 7 kids under the age of 7.

It’s also the first episode with a special guest star-my very own Rylee Applebee.

In this episode we talk about intentional practices, family values as well as the intrinsic strengths that make us who we are!

If you’re not on iTunes please use this link to listen here.

And if you’re an Apple user, please us this one!

Thanks for listening and 2 quick things:

  1. Let me know what content you’d like to hear more about!
  2. Please rate and review the podcast on iTunes/podcast app!

Entering the Podcast Space!

Hello my faithful blog subscribers!

I’m super excited to announce this new development in content.

I hoping with the new addition you can take this encouraging content on the go with you!

Yes another podcast. But not really… because if I didn’t think it offered something unique AND if I thought it wouldn’t be worth the time (HELLO! We have 7 kids now; if anyone appreciates the value of time well spent, its me!)  I wouldn’t do it!

Do me a favor if you are going to the trouble to actually click on the podcast link (provided below!) please

RATE AND REVIEW!!!

If we all do that it gives the podcast better position for ‘best new podcast’ category (which is really all about reaching and encouraging more people!)

Here’s the run down:

2 posts a month.

No more than 25 mins each.

About family life, leadership and faith.

The point is to better get through stuck and plateau seasons. I GUARANTEE if you listen you’ll be encouraged and inspired.

I would not, will not post content that is worthless! The sound of my voice is not that great! But if you could use useful anecdote from my life and the wisdom of great leaders I’ve come to know, then tune in!

And if enough of you ANDROID folks are interested I’ll put it up on your favorite podcast platform too!

Here is the link for iTunes:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-applebee-way-podcast/id1360268888

Here is the podcast website link (for those not using Apple products):

http://www.buzzsprout.com/145440

 

 

Are You a Leader that People Love to Follow?

Are You a Leader that People Love to Follow?

I have exciting things coming in 2018 that I can’t wait to tell you about but for now let me leave you with this question…

Are you a leader people love to follow?

As 2017 comes to a close, we all find ourselves at the wonderful intersection of looking back and looking forward.

(Don’t miss that part by the way-looking back. There’s learnings and lessons and all the good with the bad; you’d be a fool if you didn’t devote a serious portion of your thought life and let all of that inform you goals, hopes and dreams for 2018).

As you look back and look ahead, I want you to ask that question and I’ll be doing the same.

To get you started, I want to give you a surprisingly beautiful picture of why, of all the questions, this should be the question for you in 2018.

And I want us all to be reminded of our legacies in this picture. That’s what the end and beginning of each year builds anyway-our lifelong legacies.

It happened early this month watching (for the first time) the mid-century classic White Christmas with the wife and kids.

There’s this opening scene on the front lines of WWII and if you know anything about the film, of course, the guys break out in song.

It is the content of this one old Hollywood musical classic that is haunting me… and it goes like this:

We’ll follow the old man wherever he wants to go

Long as he wants to go opposite to the foe

We’ll stay with the old man wherever he wants to stay

Long as he stays away from the battle’s fray

Because we love him, we love him

Especially when he keeps us on the ball

And we’ll tell the kiddies we answered duty’s call

With the grandest son of a soldier of them all

I mean part of it is a satire because they only wanna follow him so long as he steers clear of any danger, and yet we all know that part’s not the picture of real life-hence the satire.

Real life is a battle; you’ll face foes both spiritual and natural-this was true in 2017 like it’ll be true in 2018. The defining moment for every leader is the repeated facing of decisions through conflict. Those who fought in WWII and any conflict since then would assuredly attest to this.

So if you can take the satire for what it is, then it’s: “We love him… we’ll follow him wherever he goes…”

That’s influence you cannot buy.
That’s a leadership built on love.
That’s a legacy of fear-no-evil followership.

The romantic side of me loves the military allusion and respects the character required to attain the rank of General (who this song is devoted to).

The Jesus-follower in me understands the fundamental difference between leadership by power, force, merit, rank or even pay and leadership by humility, compassion and peace-brokering martyrdom.

Which one inspires you more? Which one would you give your life for?

You think the disciples felt that way about Jesus? I bet you they did. Every last one of them followed him all the way to their own gruesome deaths. All for the leader they loved.

Can and will your people say the same? Your kids… your staff… your team… your employees… your church?

Man I sure hope so.

And because I know I’m not there yet, I want to be willing to have the passion, grit and discipline to do the things necessary to get there… starting today, tomorrow and 2018.

What are some of your hopes for 2018?

A Microblog about What’s Wrong in Our Country Right Now

A Microblog about What’s Wrong in Our Country Right Now

Are you ready? Here we go: 

  1. We are possessed with listening to respond rather than listening to understand 
  2. We fundamentally cannot agreee to disagree well. Not only that; when we come upon a differing view we must demonize that person (or group behind that claim) by making them morally reprehensible 
  3. (Bonus point) we all just need a little more Jesus…

I’ll expound only on this last one then make prescriptions (cause diagnosing problems/making declarative statements about “what’s wrong” is damn folly without actually prescribing potential solutions… as Ghandi said, “BE the change you wish to see.”)

So I’m sorry for playing into the really old church joke (the answers always “Jesus!”), but I’m afraid it’s just plain true.

In other words, I believe placing Christ at the center of each and every area of our lives in greater and greater proportion is the very essence of the Christian faith. 

So yes, a little more Jesus; 1% more Jesus each day might do us all very well…

At the risk of being redundant, I make this claim because Jesus is the literal complete manifestation of perfect: truth, love, peace, hope, grace, mercy, strength, justice, goodness and life that ever was. 

He is life giving; his words and his life (as preserved historically in the Gospels). 

Our national dialogue is not very life giving right now. 

So do yourself a favor and invite some life into your… life.

That’s prescription #1.

#2 is this: practice.

When you come upon someone, in person or in community or online who has a different view than yours: practice just actually hearing them… 

Ask questions-not in order to load up rebuttals-but rather to fully hear and understand. 

And keep asking questions until you get to a part of them that’s so personal and vulnerable that you begin to see their humanity.

When you run out of questions, just sit quietly until you think of more. 

And then thank them and walk away… 

What you do next is critical:

Think about what you heard-compare it to the origins, factual accuracy, logical consistency and existential reality of your worldview and move forward. 

This, I think, may present us with a better way to live…

Speak Like Your Voice is Gone Tomorrow 

Speak Like Your Voice is Gone Tomorrow 

Words that have been used to describe my speaking style: “enthusiastic… high energy… contagious… passionate.”

If you want to see if this is true, see for yourself…

What I want people to know is two things:

1, This comes from a place down deep in my heart that longs to be an agent of change in the lives of others and;

2, I act like every time that I’m given an audience, it will be my last.

(3, You can make passionate pleas in your own way too.)

With so much going on in the world today-hurricanes, earthquakes, wars, famine, disease and destruction-I can’t imagine another way of thinking.

I take the realities of our world coupled with the hope that I live for (that there is a Sovereign God that is orchestrating all of history and will send his son again one day AND that he will come “like a thief in the night” Matthew 24:42-44) and I think:

I had better get busy living, spreading life by speaking life.

So when you see my passion, don’t be mistaken-it ain’t mindless hype, it ain’t noise and it certainly ain’t because I think too highly of myself.

It IS however how highly I view our message.

How many of us miss opportunities to speak the word we really feel motivated to bring… every day, hour over hour, text, phone call and face to face meeting with family, friends and coworkers everyday?

One of my greatest irrational fears is that I’ll suffer a traumatic brain injury that will result in lack of speech; inability to formulate and communicate ideas.

I know… irrational. But at the same time, accidents do happen… look no further than the motor vehicle we climb into every day. I don’t live by this fear; this fear is not the motivation; real and present danger isn’t either.

My aim is not to drive fear. That’s not our message. Far from it…

The message is this:

With tomorrow not guaranteed, what are we doing with the voices that God has given us?

Fabulous orator or not, we each have a voice and our time is limited (by eternal standards). You don’t have to be a pastor, prophet or boss either, but I urge you:

  • Today, don’t have regrets about holding back
  • Today, share the word (encouragement, life, hope, truth) you have for another
  • Today, use your voice to be a voice for the voiceless
  • Today, leverage your influence by giving voice to life change