Mobile devices, screen time and social media… while it is far too soon to see the full affect of these forms of technology on communities and history at large, there are some early correlations that should be respected.
There are correlations for anxiety and depression, for ADHD and for a number of neurological dysfunctions.
On a personal level, I feel addicted to my phone going to it for each additional hit of cortisol and adrenaline.
This habit has left me with wasted time and a shorter attention span for my wife and kids. I am interested in taking up a radical challenge in my life to create new habit-forming patterns. Will you join me?
See the actual challenge below and find me on Instagram for updates and accountability!
Please have a listen:
Friction by Jeff Rosenblum and Jordan Berg
How to Raise a Wild Child by Scott D. Sampson
Simplicity Parenting by Kim Payne and Lisa Ross
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2016/11/the-binge-breaker/501122/?utm_source=wdfb&mbid=social_fb (article on Tristen Harris, founder of HumaneTech)
https://tifwe.org/four-lessons-faith-work-brother-lawrence/ (how to be more mindful all day!)
http://humanetech.com/take-control/ (“Time well spent” organization and further tools!)
https://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/07/technology/07brainside.html (Tech affect on identity)
https://apple.news/AKVy8sR0PQ-GyXywLtFLVog (Article about AI and our kids)
The “No Phone Challenge”
1. In the waiting (use this time-as rob bell says-to think…)
2. During all meals (use this time to connect and commune)
3. Just after waking (use this time to pray, plan and fill) (cortisol is already high in the morning; its when I get my best work done!)
4. As a passenger (enjoy the ride instead)
5. One weekend morning-off limits till noon! (Use this time to be active, learn, rest, sabbath!)
6. Driving (use this time to drive)
Today, I welcome my dad to the show, Founder and CEO of Best Overnite Express, Bill Applebee and we’re talking about growth trough tough things.
Over 30 years of business and marriage and raising 4 kids he has faced numerous battles from economic crisis to health crisis and beyond.
We talk about facing the battles in life with a growth mindset that will better help you move to accept the tough things in your life.
The outlook of the episode is not just acceptance but growth and flourishing through a tough season or moment.
As in other shows, I used Paul David’s Tripp’s Parenting book for reference in this week’s parenting pro tip; you can us this link for his wonderful book.
Here is the mp4 link-PART 1.
Here is the mp4 link-PART 2
Here is the link for iTunes.
Here are some questions to consider after listening:
1. What is your response to tough things; indifference or acceptance?
2. Ask and answer the question why is this really happening to me?
3. Pause and consider how this circumstance may be an opportunity for growth.
Featuring Special Guest Eric Markle: father, friend and fellow church leader.
Early last year I talked about the rare and unlikely event of having a very tranquil experience in the dentist chair…
I know, like I said, rare and unlikely.
But I wrote about one particular aspect of which: the moment that big, heavy, led blanket is laid across your chest and hips prior to x-rays of course.
So there is our metaphor for God’s love in fact.
God’s love is like a led blanket in at least 3 ways:
- It is the only place you will find real and lasting protection
- It must be made available to every single person and deserving of every single person
- It is used indiscriminately, even with an arch-enemy
Please have a listen!
Here is the MP3
Here is the iTunes link
Gary Chapman book “The Five Love Languages”
1. There is no protection like the Led Blanket of Love
2. You are worthy of a love like the Led Blanket can offer
3. Led blanket love is enemy love
-in all things, choose love
-optimize love by loving others according to how they best receive and experience love
Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman
1. Gift Giving
2. Quality Time
3. Word of Affirmation
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
What are some examples, in your daily walk with God, of how he shows His love to you?
What is your strategy with your spouse, to express the ethic of love?
What is your strategy with your children, to express the ethic of love?
Ever felt stuck or stagnant in your work or relationships because you’ve lost track of what the point behind it all is…?
You may be in need of a dashboard…
Dashboard, defined as a ‘picture of performance.’ Like the dashboard of a car, everyone needs a crystal clear AND visible dashboard for progress and destinations.
We have all been stuck, unsatisfied or void of purpose in work or life and for many different reasons. One that is cheif among them-I would bet-is a lack of vision for where you’re going AND how you’re doing getting there!
That’s where a dashboard would be helpful for creating clear and visible goals for your relationships, families and organizations.
The beauty of the dashboard is not just focus on the destination, but attention to the ups and downs of the journey.
Here are 3 questions to ask about moving from stuckness and plateau into passion in your work, life or family.
The 3 questions:
1. What’s your fight?
2. What’s your position?
3. Are you competing?
1. Create a dashboard that’s based off of a 1, 3 or 5 year plan (for your Prefered future, desired outcomes or goals)
2. Fill the dashboard with some of the things you want to see movement on
3. Review it early and often (otherwise its not a VISIBLE dashboard at all)
4. Use new numbers (not merely budgets or bottom lines; go beyond numbers to find what you really want to measure along the way)
Here are some Sources for further reading-each one of these guys are giants in this area (compared to me!)
–>Paul David Tripp book on Parenting https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Gospel-Principles-Radically-Change/dp/1433551934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1530216267&sr=8-1&keywords=parenting+by+paul+david+tripp
–>Ravi Zacharis https://rzim.org
–>Chris McChesney and people knowing they are playing a winning game; has a book out but also found here: https://www.franklincovey.com/speakers-bureau/chris-mcchesney.html
–>Craig Groeschel on Declarative Statements https://openblog.life.church/the-power-of-personal-declarations/
Another really personal topic for me this month: leadership identity.
The truth is: in the constant swirl of self-doubt, negative self-talk and overall mental negativity bias, we all need to hear the following words early and often:
Who you are as a leader is worth multiplying.
Fresh & passionate leadership lies at the intersection of consistent vision and identity affirmation.
If you have even one person in your life who counts on you, a child, a friend, a co-worker or mentee, then you are a leader. You have tremendous influence. And the “stuff” that’s inside you-all the character and competency and heart and faith-is worth multiplying in the next generation of leaders.
I hope you are encouraged by this month end post.
As always you can have a listen using the following two platforms:
Here are some application questions and links for further support:
1, Who is one person you may have overlooked calling out the best in?
2, What is one thing you can do to begin building the habit of offering consistent vision & affirmation for your people?
I’m really excited about this months first episode featuring a co-host and a topic that is relevant to all!
Inspired by a recent read “Friction” by Rosenblum, we (my co-host and favorite Millenial-Skylar Chaput) take a look at the generations profound impact on the marketing and business practices.
It’s the contention of the book that-as the most researched and largest living generation-Millenials have had a profound influence on the way companies market themselves.
I take that premise one step further and suggest that there are broad sweeping economic and historical implications because not only has the generation forced ethics and social justice matters onto companies, but an entire generation is giving rise to the most moral but least spiritual people of all time.
I’m interested in asking the question: what impact might this have on the Church and American culture rit large!
Here are the respective links for listening:
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Are you attempting to reach the next generation why or why not? How might this value impact your investments (of all kinds: time, talent and treasure)?
References from today’s show:
First episode (of 2) this month is devoted to a listener question: how exactly are we able to keep up with 7 kids under the age of 7.
It’s also the first episode with a special guest star-my very own Rylee Applebee.
In this episode we talk about intentional practices, family values as well as the intrinsic strengths that make us who we are!
If you’re not on iTunes please use this link to listen here.
And if you’re an Apple user, please us this one!
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