Episode 22, The AWP: Theology-What’s Your Knowledge of God?

Episode 22, The AWP: Theology-What’s Your Knowledge of God?

What you believe (or don’t believe) about God says a lot about the quality and direction of your life.

It also has some pretty outstanding eternal consequences.

My main preoccupation here as I interview Dr. Vance Gardner-Doctor of surgery, clinical studies and of course, Theology-is to get at the question of why people have left the church.

But I start from one major premise and that is this:

Every human being on this planet is born with a sense of the divine. This sense is instilled form within (our biological DNA) and without (the natural world around us).

So from this position, the question becomes really interesting: why don’t you believe in the God of the Bible or his local Church?

Here is the link to the show:

MP3

iTunes

Are you suppressing the innate knowledge of God within and around you?

Why or why not?

Because you find the Bible offensive?

Because you find the example of so-called Christians detestable?

Or maybe because you have been personally hurt by the Church or someone who bears the name of Jesus…

As you can see this topic is transcendent as well as deeply personal!

References:
-Disappearing Church by Mark Sayers
-This Cultural Moment podcast by John Mark Comer
-Deuteronomy 30:11
-Romans 1

Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Often leadership is thought of supervision or management of those “beneath” you.

Sometimes leadership is thought of leading yourself (so-called self-leadership).

Less often still-but equally valuable, leadership is understood to mean leading those above you or simply put: leading up.

In Episode 19 we talk about 3 keys to leading up better: lead up; lead up with vision; lead up with vision consistently.

I sincerely hope this will help you, your working relationships and your organizational culture. Hey, it might even save a marriage or improve your parenting!

*Don’t miss the parenting protip at the episode END!*

You can find the link here:

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Episode 16, The AWP: Coaching Essentials Featuring Loren Pine

Episode 16, The AWP: Coaching Essentials Featuring Loren Pine

Who needs mentoring and coaching? Young kids, millenials, new parents… everyone could use a life coach!

But first, we have to admit a need to get better and then we have to build a mentoring relationship on a foundation that will last.

Today, Loren and I cut through mass-produced coaching buzzword phenomenon and focus on the bedrock foundations of fruitful coaching and mentoring relationships.
Loren is a retired Pastor of more than 30 years and went on to study coaching for a decade.
Together we have been attempting to build a flourishing mentoring team at our local community of faith.

Any meaningful coaching relationships must be build on:
1, commitment to consistency
2, commitment to intentionality
3, commitment to tough questions
4, commitment to pay it forward

As always, here are some resources mentioned in today’s episode:
Crazy Love by Francis Chan (book)
Love Languages by Gary Chapman (book)
Article on the need for men to play and stay connected https://byrslf.co/thoughts-on-the-vegas-shooting-14af397cee2c

Check out the episode here!

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Episode 15 The AWP: Mastering the Art of The Ask

Episode 15 The AWP: Mastering the Art of The Ask

Every single day we contract with people and don’t know it.

How many of you have said at one point or another:

I didn’t sign on for that…” or 

“they got me doing something different now then when I was hired…” or 

“I switched roles and thought we agreed to this, but I spend most of my time over here…”???

THE BASIS OF TODAY’S CONVERSATION (DON’T MISS THIS SIMPLE TRUTH): 

There is always a conversation going on beneath the surface of what we agree to in our relationships-family, professional and romantic. So we need to get this right!

Mastering the Ask includes two things:
1, PASSION
2, CLARITY

Parenting PRO-TIP:
The real breakfast of champions = Feedback
The key = form your kids toward the people you hope they become!

Application Question #1: What are the terms and did we every really agree?!
Application Question #2: Why don’t we contract/ask well? A, lazy? B, don’t care? Or C, Don’t know how… diagnosis yourself.

Challenge:
#1 write down a bullet point list of 5 tangible & time-based responsibilities of the agreement
#2 schedule a review meeting with the person you most need to contract with (for the first time!) or re-contract with!

Sources:
Patrick Lencioni: Hungry, Humble and Smart https://www.tablegroup.com/imo/media/doc/IdealTeamPlayerSelfAsssesment(11)NEW.pdf
QBQ Book: https://www.amazon.com/QBQ-Question-Behind-Practicing-Accountability/dp/014305709X
Dan Reiland: trust as follow through https://danreiland.com/7-subtle-ways-to-erode-trust-as-a-leader/

Listen here:
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Episode 13, The AWP: Honest Communication & Affecting Change

Episode 13, The AWP: Honest Communication & Affecting Change

Like campaigning politicians, everyone has a stump speech…

From the mundane:

I promise to pick up the dirty clothes…

I vow never to look at another woman…

I will take you outside to throw the football for a full 30 minutes…

To the grandiose:

I promise 4th quarter earnings will be fixed, stakeholders…

I vow that my employees will always have these benefits…

My administration will turn this country around!

We all do it-business leaders, politicians, husbands and wife’s-we create grand visions and outline broad dreams, but whether they are fulfilled is a different matter entirely!

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving hope and casting future vision, but how do we do this in a way that most effectively serves people AND invites them to be a part of the process??

When it comes to the issues that matter most to us-money, health, security and safety-we all can imagine a brighter future, but who we expect to affect that change is everything!

Everyone wants a savior from their personal circumstance, but few want to stand in the gap themselves.

When we appeal to this base notion in others (that someone else will do it for them!) we are limiting their potential to stand and deliver on the very change they wish to see.

And that’s where I see the place of true leadership stepping in. Real leaders offer an alternative path:

Tough love and careful truth-telling coupled with delegating and empowering people to be the change they wish to see.

Here are the audio files!

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iTunes

Here are 3 application questions to consider:

It’s always easier to talk about “them out there” and balk at the data and trends for “those other types” but HOW DO WE PERSONALIZE THIS?

  1. What is 1 thing you’re currently tolerating/putting up with that you could be a part of the solution for?

  2. What is 1 step you could take to turn you mission, vision or dream into reality: FOCUS ON LOW HANGING FRUIT!

  3. What is 1 person that you could invite (empower, delegate to) who could help go with you?

Here are some resources from today’s episode:

Episode 12, The AWP: Mindfulness & Mastery of Technology

Episode 12, The AWP: Mindfulness & Mastery of Technology

Mobile devices, screen time and social media… while it is far too soon to see the full affect of these forms of technology on communities and history at large, there are some early correlations that should be respected.

There are correlations for anxiety and depression, for ADHD and for a number of neurological dysfunctions.

On a personal level, I feel addicted to my phone going to it for each additional hit of cortisol and adrenaline.

This habit has left me with wasted time and a shorter attention span for my wife and kids. I am interested in taking up a radical challenge in my life to create new habit-forming patterns. Will you join me?

See the actual challenge below and find me on Instagram for updates and accountability!

Please have a listen:

iTunes

MP4

Books:
Friction by Jeff Rosenblum and Jordan Berg
How to Raise a Wild Child by Scott D. Sampson
Simplicity Parenting by Kim Payne and Lisa Ross

Article links:
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2016/11/the-binge-breaker/501122/?utm_source=wdfb&mbid=social_fb (article on Tristen Harris, founder of HumaneTech)
https://tifwe.org/four-lessons-faith-work-brother-lawrence/ (how to be more mindful all day!)
http://humanetech.com/take-control/ (“Time well spent” organization and further tools!)
https://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/07/technology/07brainside.html (Tech affect on identity)
https://apple.news/AKVy8sR0PQ-GyXywLtFLVog (Article about AI and our kids)

The “No Phone Challenge”
1. In the waiting (use this time-as rob bell says-to think…)
2. During all meals (use this time to connect and commune)
3. Just after waking (use this time to pray, plan and fill) (cortisol is already high in the morning; its when I get my best work done!)
4. As a passenger (enjoy the ride instead)
5. One weekend morning-off limits till noon! (Use this time to be active, learn, rest, sabbath!)
6. Driving (use this time to drive)

Episode 11 (Part 1 & 2), The AWP: Growth Through Tough Things Featuring Bill Applebee

Episode 11 (Part 1 & 2), The AWP: Growth Through Tough Things Featuring Bill Applebee

Today, I welcome my dad to the show, Founder and CEO of Best Overnite Express, Bill Applebee and we’re talking about growth trough tough things.

Over 30 years of business and marriage and raising 4 kids he has faced numerous battles from economic crisis to health crisis and beyond.

We talk about facing the battles in life with a growth mindset that will better help you move to accept the tough things in your life.

The outlook of the episode is not just acceptance but growth and flourishing through a tough season or moment.

As in other shows, I used Paul David’s Tripp’s Parenting book for reference in this week’s parenting pro tip; you can us this link for his wonderful book.

Here is the mp4 link-PART 1.

Here is the mp4 link-PART 2

Here is the link for iTunes.

Here are some questions to consider after listening:

Application:
1. What is your response to tough things; indifference or acceptance?
2. Ask and answer the question why is this really happening to me?
3. Pause and consider how this circumstance may be an opportunity for growth.