Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Episode 19, The AWP: Give Your Boss a Heads Up!

Often leadership is thought of supervision or management of those “beneath” you.

Sometimes leadership is thought of leading yourself (so-called self-leadership).

Less often still-but equally valuable, leadership is understood to mean leading those above you or simply put: leading up.

In Episode 19 we talk about 3 keys to leading up better: lead up; lead up with vision; lead up with vision consistently.

I sincerely hope this will help you, your working relationships and your organizational culture. Hey, it might even save a marriage or improve your parenting!

*Don’t miss the parenting protip at the episode END!*

You can find the link here:

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Episode 18, The AWP: SQUARE UP! (With Your Belief & Vision, Featuring Seth Schmidt)

Episode 18, The AWP: SQUARE UP! (With Your Belief & Vision, Featuring Seth Schmidt)

We’ve all espoused some belief or vision that we regard in the deepest part of our hearts.

But how many of us are actually living that belief or vision daily?

To live our core convictions and to pursue the big dreams of clear visions God has given us for our lives requires a daily dose of truth and discipline.

Most of us are just too sloppy, distracted or isolated to make any progress on our vision or to live passionately into our core values!

Listen to this jarring experience my brother in law has begun this past fall and I think our conversation will inspire you to install some new habits in your life that will help you better square up with what you say you Believe!

I especially want my Christian listeners to be challenged in terms of what beliefs or values they subscribe to yet suspend when the rubber meets the road!

Here is the MP3

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Episode 17, The AWP: Habits That Will Make or Break You Featuring Rylee Applebee (Recovery Episode)

Episode 17, The AWP: Habits That Will Make or Break You Featuring Rylee Applebee (Recovery Episode)

In this episode we tackle habit forming for kids, here are the 3 tips we learned if you want to move from endless nagging to delegation:

• 1. Pick one single basic habit

• 2. Get a timer

• 3. Enforce the consequence

Now for the number 1 habit to make your new year… recovery!

Here are 7 principles of recovery that will catapult you into the new year…

First practice step #4 alone from the 12 steps and you will be above the cut

step #4:

We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Here are the 7 principles achieved once you can admit we are ALL in recovery

#1 first admit we all need to recover from something

#2 this admission will place you a cut above in emotional maturity

#3 recovery asks & answers tough questions

#4 no one goes alone: REMEMBER JAMES 5

16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for

each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a

righteous person is powerful and effective. 17 Elijah was a

human being, even as we are. He prayed earnestly that it

would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a

half years.

#5 brutal honesty is the only honesty

#6 watch the junk in your life move from dark to light

#7 its strategic and meticulous (that’s what makes it brutal)

As always here are the audio files

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Here are some links for further study:

Listen to this talk if you want to shape up habits in your kids life

https://simplycharlottemason.com/store/laying-down-rails-habits-workshop/?attribute_pa_media-type=audio-mp3-download

To get to work on the meticulous digging of your past, your wounds, stuck areas and bad habits grab this little workbook and invite 2-3 others to join you!

https://www.biblesatcost.com/the-life-recovery-workbook-a-biblical-guide-through-the-twelve-steps-softcover-352.html?fee=1&fep=35&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIweqAv6rK3wIV6h-tBh2McQJpEAQYASABEgIhtvD_BwE

To read about your family history and how it’s impacting your health (along with so many other brilliant insights) grab this classic from Pete Scazzero.

https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Healthy-Spirituality-Impossible-Spiritually/dp/0310348498/ref=asc_df_0310348498/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312562231174&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=9792487286474645844&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1014218&hvtargid=pla-504503892127&psc=1

I also recommend Pete’s podcast for anyone at any point of their spiritual journey!

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-emotionally-healthy-leader-podcast/id1064966935?mt=2&i=1000422861470

Episode 16, The AWP: Coaching Essentials Featuring Loren Pine

Episode 16, The AWP: Coaching Essentials Featuring Loren Pine

Who needs mentoring and coaching? Young kids, millenials, new parents… everyone could use a life coach!

But first, we have to admit a need to get better and then we have to build a mentoring relationship on a foundation that will last.

Today, Loren and I cut through mass-produced coaching buzzword phenomenon and focus on the bedrock foundations of fruitful coaching and mentoring relationships.
Loren is a retired Pastor of more than 30 years and went on to study coaching for a decade.
Together we have been attempting to build a flourishing mentoring team at our local community of faith.

Any meaningful coaching relationships must be build on:
1, commitment to consistency
2, commitment to intentionality
3, commitment to tough questions
4, commitment to pay it forward

As always, here are some resources mentioned in today’s episode:
Crazy Love by Francis Chan (book)
Love Languages by Gary Chapman (book)
Article on the need for men to play and stay connected https://byrslf.co/thoughts-on-the-vegas-shooting-14af397cee2c

Check out the episode here!

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Episode 15 The AWP: Mastering the Art of The Ask

Episode 15 The AWP: Mastering the Art of The Ask

Every single day we contract with people and don’t know it.

How many of you have said at one point or another:

I didn’t sign on for that…” or 

“they got me doing something different now then when I was hired…” or 

“I switched roles and thought we agreed to this, but I spend most of my time over here…”???

THE BASIS OF TODAY’S CONVERSATION (DON’T MISS THIS SIMPLE TRUTH): 

There is always a conversation going on beneath the surface of what we agree to in our relationships-family, professional and romantic. So we need to get this right!

Mastering the Ask includes two things:
1, PASSION
2, CLARITY

Parenting PRO-TIP:
The real breakfast of champions = Feedback
The key = form your kids toward the people you hope they become!

Application Question #1: What are the terms and did we every really agree?!
Application Question #2: Why don’t we contract/ask well? A, lazy? B, don’t care? Or C, Don’t know how… diagnosis yourself.

Challenge:
#1 write down a bullet point list of 5 tangible & time-based responsibilities of the agreement
#2 schedule a review meeting with the person you most need to contract with (for the first time!) or re-contract with!

Sources:
Patrick Lencioni: Hungry, Humble and Smart https://www.tablegroup.com/imo/media/doc/IdealTeamPlayerSelfAsssesment(11)NEW.pdf
QBQ Book: https://www.amazon.com/QBQ-Question-Behind-Practicing-Accountability/dp/014305709X
Dan Reiland: trust as follow through https://danreiland.com/7-subtle-ways-to-erode-trust-as-a-leader/

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Episode 14 The AWP: Where Do We Go For Answers?

Episode 14 The AWP: Where Do We Go For Answers?

Google? Siri? Alexa? Where do we go for the most profound questions in life?

Our parents, teachers, books, news/music/culture… have all probably had a formative hand in the shaping of our assumptions, biases and overall worldview.

Is that all there is?

Is the Bible still relevant for the issues and struggles of our time? And could it speak authoritatively into the questions that matter most to us?

The point is that we all carry a set of assumptions and beliefs into the relationships, decisions and conversations of everyday life. What we believe impacts all that we do!

So this questions matters A LOT!

Have a listen here:

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Two points to consider are:

1. CONSIDER GOD’S VOICE AND THE TRUTH OF HIS WORD

+The Bible is culturally relevant and morally sound… test it first, believe it second!

2. TAKE MEANINGFUL ACTION ON WHAT YOU FIND

+We cannot separate belief from action…

Application:

  • Practice an immersion experience to check your current set of assumptions and beliefs to make sure it stands the test of time…
  • Have people over who view the world differently than you do
  • Take a bus ride to a different part of town
  • Take a city college class on a subject that you disagree with

Episode 13, The AWP: Honest Communication & Affecting Change

Episode 13, The AWP: Honest Communication & Affecting Change

Like campaigning politicians, everyone has a stump speech…

From the mundane:

I promise to pick up the dirty clothes…

I vow never to look at another woman…

I will take you outside to throw the football for a full 30 minutes…

To the grandiose:

I promise 4th quarter earnings will be fixed, stakeholders…

I vow that my employees will always have these benefits…

My administration will turn this country around!

We all do it-business leaders, politicians, husbands and wife’s-we create grand visions and outline broad dreams, but whether they are fulfilled is a different matter entirely!

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving hope and casting future vision, but how do we do this in a way that most effectively serves people AND invites them to be a part of the process??

When it comes to the issues that matter most to us-money, health, security and safety-we all can imagine a brighter future, but who we expect to affect that change is everything!

Everyone wants a savior from their personal circumstance, but few want to stand in the gap themselves.

When we appeal to this base notion in others (that someone else will do it for them!) we are limiting their potential to stand and deliver on the very change they wish to see.

And that’s where I see the place of true leadership stepping in. Real leaders offer an alternative path:

Tough love and careful truth-telling coupled with delegating and empowering people to be the change they wish to see.

Here are the audio files!

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Here are 3 application questions to consider:

It’s always easier to talk about “them out there” and balk at the data and trends for “those other types” but HOW DO WE PERSONALIZE THIS?

  1. What is 1 thing you’re currently tolerating/putting up with that you could be a part of the solution for?

  2. What is 1 step you could take to turn you mission, vision or dream into reality: FOCUS ON LOW HANGING FRUIT!

  3. What is 1 person that you could invite (empower, delegate to) who could help go with you?

Here are some resources from today’s episode: