Every single day we contract with people and don’t know it.
How many of you have said at one point or another:
“I didn’t sign on for that…” or
“they got me doing something different now then when I was hired…” or
“I switched roles and thought we agreed to this, but I spend most of my time over here…”???
THE BASIS OF TODAY’S CONVERSATION (DON’T MISS THIS SIMPLE TRUTH):
There is always a conversation going on beneath the surface of what we agree to in our relationships-family, professional and romantic. So we need to get this right!
Mastering the Ask includes two things:
The real breakfast of champions = Feedback
The key = form your kids toward the people you hope they become!
Application Question #1: What are the terms and did we every really agree?!
Application Question #2: Why don’t we contract/ask well? A, lazy? B, don’t care? Or C, Don’t know how… diagnosis yourself.
#1 write down a bullet point list of 5 tangible & time-based responsibilities of the agreement
#2 schedule a review meeting with the person you most need to contract with (for the first time!) or re-contract with!
Patrick Lencioni: Hungry, Humble and Smart https://www.tablegroup.com/imo/media/doc/IdealTeamPlayerSelfAsssesment(11)NEW.pdf
QBQ Book: https://www.amazon.com/QBQ-Question-Behind-Practicing-Accountability/dp/014305709X
Dan Reiland: trust as follow through https://danreiland.com/7-subtle-ways-to-erode-trust-as-a-leader/